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Category: Parenting
Angry and Concerned
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posted 12:52pm, May 8, 2008
We have neighbor a couple houses away, young male, mentally challenged as well as having down's syndrome. He is living on his own, case workers pop in and out through the DAY. We knew that he was severly abused by mother, don't know where his father is. Anyway he is always loitering around. The cops have been called to his apartment several times, as well as bringing him home in the middle of the night when he has been wandering around. He becomes hostile if you tell him to leave (especially women, I had to call my dh home from work one day when he would not go, had to bring my kids in from outside). We have often wondered why he is not in a group home.
Yesterday there were maintanence workers in his building and my mom, who lives right next door was outside with her dogs, saw him chasing a women worker out of the building and pin her against a car and was about to hit her when another worker stopped him, they would not let my mom call the cops. Well we have now just found out why he is not in a group home. He used to rape female housemates in the middle of the night.
So you just put him into society with no supervision. There are 7 kids between 4 and 7 on my block alone, 6 of them girls, 2 widows, 1 being my mom who lives right next to him and the next block has 5 apartment buildings with who knows how many kids, and I have an in home daycare. I do not even want my kids outside anymore. My dog freaks out if he even stands at the end of my driveway- which he does alot, just stands there and stares at my kids. I once called the kids in for snack, he left and came back with a bag of chips.
So what do I do now?
Handle every stressful situation like a dog.
If you can't eat it or play with it,
Just pee on it and walk away.
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posted 1:26pm, May 8, 2008
I would call the cops everytime he comes around. Tell each and everyone of them his story just like you've written it and explain your concern. Pretty soon every cop in your town will know about it and if they arent driving around the area in a month or so to check on him I would be extremely surprised. If it comes down to it, get a harrasment order and if he even so much as makes a move at you call the cops. Soon enough they will either put him in a more secure home so that he can be watched or put him in jail for not obeying the restraining order. I know it seems drastic but wouldnt you rather have yourself and all the kids you care for safe than to be worrying constently about him hurting someone. If he's violent you have every right to protect yourself and the kids.
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posted 1:46pm, May 8, 2008
Removed from the mother because she abused him, grandparents are too old, but wealthy. He has also walked into 2 peoples house's without knocking. And what about these housemates that he had sex with, because they are mentally handicapped as well, they dont have the right to have these crimes reported. So much about this is just wrong. My kids all know to come and get me right away if he comes around, but still, kids being kids, and luckily he is afraid of my dogs. He has destroyed the apartment that he lives in, punching holes in the walls.
Handle every stressful situation like a dog.
If you can't eat it or play with it,
Just pee on it and walk away.
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posted 2:26pm, May 8, 2008
...how long has this been going on for?
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posted 2:32pm, May 8, 2008
Wow - how did you find this out? Crazy stuff I would also be very upset and concerned. I would call the police, protective services, and anyone else you could think of every time you see him hanging around. He should not be living on his own in mainstream society. He should be in an institution that can keep a better eye on him. If it had to come down to it I would say he should be confined to his room under security monitering. Sounds harsh for someone who is mentally disabled but he is still a threat to society regardless of his mental state and that is what is the most important issue here. Get all of your neighbors involved as well. I would call a meeting of all of your neighbors to see how many people are aware of this and to discuss a plan of action. If lots of people are constantly calling there will be a better chance of something being done that if just you are calling. And I would not let the kids out without supervision at all.
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posted 10:11pm, May 8, 2008
OMG what a stressful situation for your family! I agree with pp's. Call all your neighbors, arrange a meeting so you can all discuss what's the best thing to do. Your children's safety is #1. If he's mentally challenged and harmless then that wouldn't worry me so bad but that man is causing so much trouble in your area, he is threat to children's safety and the mere fact that he raped women in his former group home that is enough ground for you to make a petition against his stay in your neighborhood. I feel sorry for him, but it isn't so bad to send him to a mental hospital, wherein he can get professional and medical help 24/7.
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posted 12:16am, May 9, 2008
Sounds like you need to call social services, or when you see them in and out, I would stop them(call them over to your house and ask for their card so you can call them when you have problems with him. After you get their card print some up and distribute them to the other neighbors.( in our state GA) sex offenders are not allowed to live in certain areas, like schools. I agree that you should have a meeting with the other neighbors to inform them to keep their doors locked etc. Please inform us on what you do!
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posted 4:11am, May 9, 2008
Call social services, call the apartment manager and express your concern, and if they don't listen call the media! Trust me social services and the apartments will not want the bad press from something like this. Your mom should still call the cops for whats she witnessed. They have no right to tell her she can or cannot call the police. The incident needs to be documented withthe police. If they get enough documention on things they will do something.
Also keep a log of everything he does, have your neighbors do the same if you can. IF enough people complain loud enough they will have to do something about it!
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posted 6:14am, May 12, 2008
CAll the county and tell them your concerns, about this matter, I would really be concerned, since he obviously has a mental problem, I think this should be left to the professionals, I know there are mentally challenged people where I live and if you approach them in the wrong way, they will get aggressive, call the county mental health department and voice your concerns, you are doing nothing wrong, just protecting your family.
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Where is his mother in all this? Shouldn't she be responsible for her son? You said he is living on his own...don't the police and case workers believe he should be with his mother or another family member?