hi there- i ahve quite a little sassy pot on my hands myself. i aksed for advice on this site and got some good info--- majic 1,2,3... and love and logic. both are good, found them at the bookstore. different ideas but i am trying to use a little bit of both. you can look both up on line also. good luck!!!

Thank you ladies!  I have been reading Dr. Dobson's Strong Willed Child, and that helped, too.  But I will check out these two books, also!

let me know how things go crysan-- i'll take any advice.

my grandson is 19 months old and I was hoping his tantrums of throwing himself onto floor were because he's not able to communicate his needs. Maybe he is really strong willed, because your child is almost 10 months older and just starting his fits I gather! When we are in public, I can divert his attention easily because so much is going on, and curiosity is a godsend when you are young and everything you see is for first time.  I have also tried to get to his level and look at him sorta like I am concerned, to see what it is he wants.  If it is attention, he gets it, if it is to have his way he does not get my attention.   Its that simple.   Try to tell yourself you are smarter and can turn things around from bad to good, for now that is.  Toddlers challenge your spirit and patience.  When he wants to know why he cant watch tv and has to eat, answer with, because the tv says so, thats why. I remember my daughter did not want to go to bed on time and was very hard to get going in morning and she would accept my wishes when I replied, the clock says we have to leave now, go to bed now, get up now.  I picked my battles and all stupid questions, get stupid answers! Even more simple good advice! I just reinforced my strength blogging is good!  sheila jane   stay at home gram

Thanks sheilajane!  Always good to get more ideas.  My son has always been strong-willed.  I do think it is our fault as he is our oldest and we have probably "ruined" him.  But we're trying to get back on track.  We did have a small victory yesterday at breakfast.  He came to the table and we had french toast.  Well, he said I want pancakes.  I said, "I'm sorry, but french toast is what we are having, if you do not want it, you may leave the table."  He changed his tune and ate all the french toast!  Yeah!  we also have been using a timer for timing his playtime outside, etc. to hopefully ease transitions.  But, that isn't always working...But, I'm happy to say, we are having small victories around my house!

Unfortunately when they stop is different for all kids. Good thing is sounds like your being consistent and that's important! Get down on your sons level, get his attention and remind him that that behavior is not acceptable. Find a bench and sit for a time out. If after 30-60 seconds it does not subside, try continueing to walk and ignoring him. Worse case scenario, leave the store. When my now 5 yo was in this phase, I had to limit the time she spent out in public with me. We couldn't go out to eat because she was so stubborn and would not give in and settle down. It was during these terrible two's. Ya know why they are called the terrible 2's? Not because it happens when they are 2, but because it lasts for 2 years!!! lol I heard that once and I so agreed!

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I dont know if i just got lucky with my daughter but either ignoring it or telling her straight out in a low voice that i was not going to except this behavior always worked. I had to keep it up though, everytime she would start to get fussy i would tell her to use her words or just be quiet. then i would say if you cant be a big girl we will just have to go home. always worked and she could usually tell me what she wanted or why she was upset. I always did any errand running right after a nap though so i knew that she wasnt tired.