Kaboose Editor and Queen of Impatience Liz Bruckner is about to venture into the land of Momhood. Join her through her last months of pregnancy as she alternates between chiding her belly to get moving already - and reaches new levels of terror at every labor class - the first months of motherhood, and the joys and challenges that follow the birth of her first child.
6:26pm, May 5, 2008
Big news!!! My little guy has popped his first tooth AND he's rolling like mad! The first realization came when I was feeding him a small crumb from a teething biscuit he was chomping on (talk about putting the cart before the horse), and as I put it in his mouth, I felt a small ridge on his lower gums. I went back for a second feel and immediately called Ryan over to feel for himself. Such a momentous occasion! As for the rolling, he did a whack of it while we were away this past weekend visiting friends. Maybe he was showing off. :)
Next on the list -- crawling!! I know moms say you should enjoy their immobility while it lasts, but I can't wait until he's bombing around the house. I've even bought him little legwarmers to wear so he doesn't hurt those chubby knees of his!
2:35pm, Apr 24, 2008
Ever notice that when you hear or think about something you've never really noticed before, how all of a sudden it's everywhere? Case in point, my new obsessive worry over vaccines and whether or not to give Oliver all the needles listed in the immunization schedule.
Before having my little guy, I never thought about vaccines. (To be honest, needles kinda freak me out so I try not to think about them in any way, shape or form.) Then, about a month after he arrived, I turned on Oprah and there sat Jenny McCarthy. The next hour changed everything. Between her horror stories of watching her son endure seizure after seizure to her linking the incredible increase in autism over the last 20 + years to the rise in vaccines babies receive (ten were administered in 1983; the number of vaccines currently given has jumped to 36), I've become a bundle of nerves. I've also become an internet research rat.
On the web site www.generationresue.com, they point out that fifty years ago when there were only four vaccines offered to babies (which treated smallpox, tetanus, pertussis and diphtheria), autism was unheard of and affected less than 1 in 10,000 kids. Now, one in 68 American families has a child with autism. And that doesn't begin to touch on the countless other less severe developmental disorders affecting kids today, which, again, were very rarely heard of before numerous vaccinations became so mainstream. Needless to say, this has left me very, very wary of vaccines, and at a bit of a loss regarding what to do when it comes to Oliver.
After much research, worry, and back-and-forthing on the matter, here's where I'm at. First, I've asked my pediatrician to break up the vaccinations so Oliver isn't being bombarded with so many at once. Second, I'm seriously considering not having him receive any more needles until he turns two. (He's received all his shots up until 6 months.) And lastly, I'll be trying to avoid any shots that contain mercury, which seems to be the worst ingredient of the bunch.
Ultimately I don't know if any or all of these steps will prevent issues in the future. That said, if I don't follow my gut now I'll always wonder what would have happened if I had and will regret not following my intuition down the road. In the meantime, I think I may have to look for a new "greener" pediatrician. Even just mentioning my thoughts to our current one during the last visit earned me a look of "disapproval". Not a good sign if you ask me!
Had any concerns of your own about vaccines? I'd love to know how you decided what to do!
10:47pm, Apr 7, 2008
Just a quick update before I hit the hay, and here it is: Oliver is the sweetness. He's so smiley and happy and all around lovely. He's also started to sit on his own (super cute!) and stick his bum in the air when he's on his belly -- I'm choosing to believe it's a start in his mission to crawl. Food is another new happening. He's eating three times a day on top of his bottles, and has taken a liking to sweet potatoes, creamed corn and mashed up bananas. He detests butternut squash, veggies mixed with spaghetti (the baby jar version, at least), and oatmeal/bran cereal that's not mixed with applesauce. (He tolerates the latter, but just barely.)
We've also developed a napping schedule which brings me to my mini dilemma. He's pretty consistent with waking 7 a.m. and goes down for two naps at 9 and again at 1. Normal, yes? But what I'm wondering is this -- whenever I look on websites to get tips on the sleeping patterns babies who are six months old should follow, I read that they should be taking two naps. Check and check. But does that mean that once the baby wakes up from their 1 p.m. nap that they should be awake until they go bed for the night (which in our case is 8 p.m.)? I don't think I could keep him awake that long if I wanted to, but if I should extend the time he's awake, then I'll do my best.
Any ideas or suggestions? I'm all ears!
Oh, the "sleeping guidelines." Our daughters, 3.5 and nearly 2, are literally as different as night and day, one is a morning zealot, the other a complete night owl. You and your sweet little Oliver are the only people who have a clue what is best. Go with the flow and if it isn't working, adjust. Sounds pretty wonderful so far!
You described a similar routine with my 8mos. old baby girl. She wakes up at 7a.m. ,eat breakfast,nap at 10a.m.lunch at 12 then nap about 2p.m. dinner at 4:30- 5 then I let her nap a very short one just to take the edge off from being sleepy which is no more than 25 mins. She still sleep through the night.
3:08pm, Mar 27, 2008
I swear to you, I never used to be a shut in. If Ryan and I had a free night together we'd take in a movie, go to dinner, play poker with friends or try something different, like rock climbing or indoor racing (okay, we did that once but it still counts). But since having Oliver, I've been inside for days on end. I think I can count on one hand the days we've actually gone out for walks and the little guy is just a week and a half from hitting his half birthday. (I blame that on two things: One, the HORRIBLE winter we've had in the Great White North which makes stroller pushing out of the question, and two, the fact that I was so tired for the first few months that showering and brushing my teeth ate up any energy I had. Forget making myself look decent. Waaay too much work.)
Anyway, I've managed to yank myself out of the abiss and am now looking forward to the spring. I opened the door yesterday to get the mail and was pleasantly surprised to find that the wind didn't take my breath away. A sure sign of good things to come, I'd say. Now I just have to prepare Oliver for outdoor living. Thankfully there's a park just a few blocks from our house so we won't have to trek too far for our daily outings. I just have to work on timing them right so we happen to run into other moms and babies. I realize he's not really at the stage yet that he cares much about other kids but I figure he should at least be exposed to more than one or two every few weeks (which is where we're at right now). I also think it might be good for me to congregate with more moms, but I worry that since I'm getting into the game so late, maybe they've filled their friend quota and I'll always be the creepy mom who watches everyone from afar while trying to make it look like she's not watching.
Does anyone have any advice on how to break into a mom circle without seeming like you're trying too hard?
2:24pm, Feb 26, 2008
I swear to you, I've never been so domestic in my life. Before having Oliver and spending my days at home, my husband and I would get home after work, search the freezer for whatever microwavable morsels we could find and settle in for a steaming hot -- and entirely unhealthy -- meal on front of the TV. Now if it's 4 o'clock and I haven't planned or started dinner, I get antsy.
I attribute this change in my culinary taste to my trainer Nicole. She lent me a book called "The Eat Clean Diet" and told me to read up. I did and have after trying a recipe for Summertime Risotto (that I made in the dead of winter), I was hooked. And my husband -- the original veggiephobe -- has been converted, too. The guy who wouldn't touch a vegetable with a ten-foot pole is now eating mushrooms, zucchini, peppers and ONIONS, the biggest feat of all.
So now my plan is to get Oliver on the right track when he can start eating food in a little over a month (which, btw, I AM SO EXCITED FOR!!). I figure if we're all on the same page as far as eating goes, it'll be second nature to him. I know junk food is going to enter the equation at some point but if we're on track most of the time, maybe it'll make keeping the bad stuff minimal easier... Or so I've convinced myself.
Anyone have any advice on how to make good eating habits stick? Holler at me if you do.
Liz :)
The healthier you eat, the less you'll crave the crappy stuff. Same thing goes with sugary foods. In fact, you may even start to dislike bad options. You'll certainly notice the difference on how they effect you physically. Sure, you'll have days where you slip and that is fine. Don't punish yourself and just balance things out the next day with a healthier meal. :)
If you offer your child a variety of foods, he will learn to enjoy lots of different things to eat. My boys eat a little junk food, but they also eat lots of fruits and vegetables and whole grains. When they start wanting only junk food I take any and all junk food away...you'd be surprised how fast they'll eat almost anything you give them! Hopefully your son will be a good eater...I have one very picky eater and one who will eat almost anything :)
6:22pm, Feb 20, 2008
It's been a few weeks since I last wrote. I'd like to attribute my laziness to my being so incredibly busy that I haven't had time to log a blog, but in all honesty it's because I've been enjoying the downtime. (Oliver continues to nap like a dream and last night actually slept through the night from 9:30 until 6:45 this morning!) And actually, I have been busy...ish. I've been watching HBO, cooking healthy meals (this from a girl who used to break into a sweat at the thought of cooking for anyone other than me or my strong palleted husband) and working out. A lot. In fact, I've been doing so much of the latter that I've lost -- weight for it (get it? weight? ha...ha...) -- 18 POUNDS!! I'm telling you, I've never worked so hard in my life. I'm working out six nights a week and am two pounds away from my pre-preggo weight. That said, as all you moms out there know, my body ain't what it used to be. But it's a small price to pay. And the way I look at it, if Kelly Ripa can get a rock hard body after three kids, it might be possible for me after one! :P
1:13pm, Jan 31, 2008
Okay, so you know how I was going on and on about the sleeping thing and how well everything was going? Apparently I spoke too soon. It seems L'il O has up and decided that he doesn't want to sleep at night anymore -- not for more than three hours, anyway -- and that the early hours of the a.m. are party time! Last night I awoke to feed him after only 3 hours of snoozing and as I scooped him out of his crib, I got the biggest "oooooooh", which is never a good sign at 1 in the morning. I kept my trap shut so as not to encourage his waking but it didn't seem to help much. His neck was working overtime, turning every which way to see what was happening (let me tell you -- it wasn't much) and it took a good 30 minutes of rocking and then swaying after he was finished eating to enter the land of slumber. Let's just say I'm sooo thankful for the daytime naps that allow me to catch up on some sleep. THANK GOD for them.
In exercise-related news, I've lost 14 pounds since I started working out!! Fourteen! I'm kind of in a state of shock. That said, I've been working my butt off in more ways than one. I go to a fitness class four nights a week for an hour and do two cardio sessions on the weekend. My trainer, Nicole, has also been great about guiding me in everything, especially nutrition (an area in which I admittedly SUCK at) and I owe my blubber loss to her. I'm just hoping now to keep the momentum I've got going and to drop the rest of the weight. Wish me luck (because Lord knows I need it)!
11:47am, Jan 18, 2008
So I was in a grocery store the other day and while I was at the checkout, the cashier asked me if I'd like to donate $5 to a children's charity. I said I would and after she added it to my bill, she thanked me and asked if I was a mom. Sort of a random question I thought since you don't have to have kids to donate, but I answered her that yes, I was... and that's when it hit me. I'm a mom. Me. Liz.
It's not as though I don't know it and live it on a daily basis, but for some reason saying it out loud made it more real. I felt the same way the other night at my fitness class. It's full of moms who come to workout while their kids are in dance or theatre class (me being the exception -- Oliver is growing up fast but not that fast!) and when talk turned to kids and babies, I realized that I'm now part of the mom group. Maybe it's just me but it sorta hit me like a truck how you can be just you all your life and then all of a sudden you're mom and responsible for rearing a little person. (I'm just hoping I do a half decent job at the latter. Time will tell!)
In Oliver-related news, I'm so, so in love with him. He's the most gorgeous baby ever (I know, I'm partial) and his smile just kills me -- especially when I get him first thing in the morning and he does his shy grin, followed by lots of coos and gurgles. He's rolling over all the time from his belly to his back, is starting to give his Jolly Jumper a run for its money, and is honestly all around wonderful. He's even started napping for -- get this! -- TWO HOURS AT A TIME!! ON HIS OWN!! DURING THE DAY!! Suffice it to say I feel so blessed, fortunate and well rested!! :)
It's great when you get to the "fun part" of mommyhood, right? Glad to see that you're enjoying the ride!
I'm SO enjoying it! The first few weeks were quite the challenge but I really feel like things are only getting better now. Not that I'm in any hurry but I can see why women are already ready to have another while their babies are so young. :)
It's kind of like when you get married and have to refer to him as "my husband" Hits you all of a sudden. But the mom thing never goes away because now you are a mom of an infant. Then you are a mom of a toddler and a mom of a preschooler. Then it's weird when you are no longer a mom of an infant anymore. And you say, wait a sec, I don't HAVE an infant anymore. And it goes on. But so glad you are enjoying it. They are fun to have in the house. We learn from them as much as they learn from us. And I can't believe he's rolling already. Won't be long before he's crawling, really really fast. You'll be shocked at how fast they can move. :)
7:09pm, Jan 3, 2008
I have a love/hate relationship with the holidays. Love them because they really are the most wonderful time of the year, hate them because they're so exhausting, especially this year. Who knew packing -- not to mention traveling -- with a wee baby was so hard?
We started things off by going up to my family's place which is five hours north of us. From there we were back and forth to my sister's place, friends' places, not to mention the random jaunts to stores to pick up last-minute necessities. Like I said, exhausting...and we're not even halfway through making our rounds! After spending almost three days there, we were off to my in-laws almost eight hours away. Yes, you read that right. And can we just talk about traveling for five and then eight hours with a two-and-a-half month old? Dear Lord. I haven't shaken a rattle, played a musical book, or bopped around in a car so much in my life!
Once we arrived at the in-laws we, again, were back and forth between friends' and family homes. Four days later, we were back home for a day, then off again to another friend's house. And as for New Year's? We've been over going out for years but this December 31st was a little sad on account we were in bed by....wait for it...9:30! That said, even if we had gone out I would have likely been dead on my feet. (Oliver's been sleeping better at night for the past few weeks but not that much better.)
As for my diet, I did pretty well while we were away but once we got home it was a whole new ballgame. I guess running around for 10+ days really takes its toll on a girl. (That's my story and I'm sticking to it.) When hunger hit, rather than putting together a healthy salad which really takes not much time at all, pounding back a bulk bag of chocolate macaroons seemed like a good -- no, great -- idea. Upon reflection, maybe that wasn't the best choice for the size of my butt. ;P
2:10pm, Dec 17, 2007
So, it's Monday and the start of a new week -- a fat burning week, hopefully, because it appears Nicole was right -- she did hold the secret to my weight loss. Are you ready for this? It turns out I have to eat more. Yes, MORE. The catch? It's gotta be healthy stuff, which means Ben & Jerry's has been given the heave ho. (My heart broke a little as I typed that sentence.) It also means I'm going from three not-so-healthy meals a day (up until last week my breakfast and lunch consisted of a cookie or two and maybe a glass of water if I had a minute to pour it) to six smaller, all natural (read: veggies, protein and good-for-me carbs) ones. I'm into the swing of things now but let me tell you, eating so much for the first few days was hard work. Not only for my stomach, but for me to prepare. It's all good now, though. And guess what? The change is working because I've already lost three pounds!!! (Okay, it's more like two and a half but I've always been a glass half full kinda person.)
In Oliver-related news, he giggled yesterday!! My sister was holding him and starting tickling him on his upper inner thigh and he let out two big laughs! It was soooo adorable. Of course, then Ryan and I tried to get him to do it again but he withheld. He almost cried, actually. And, now that I think about it, I'm torn about the whole thing. I'm so happy he laughed, but let's be honest -- I'm not too pleased that he won't do it for me. I did, after all, birth him -- it's the least he can do for me! And I tried again this morning (more than a few times) to get one out of him, but nope, he's not giving them up. I then realized I'm jealous of my sister for getting my baby to laugh for the first time. Does that sound horrible?
36? Isn't that overkill? What happened to natural immune systems? I was one of those kids born in 1983...Now I go for my 10 year booster which includes only the most basic of things. I basically look at child vaccines as giving only what is necessary to my child. It's best to talk to a doctor you trust about it and hope that you get an answer that relieves your fears.
Wow... I never knew it was that many. My son is now 6, and honestly, I never kept track of the number of shots, only that he was up to date. It's scary to think that the shots that were intended to protect our children are actually doing harm. I'll definitely be talking to my pediatrician about this on our next visit. And kudos for wanting to find a new one!! If I run into the same problem, I'll be on the lookout too. Good Luck ~ God Bless
I am have three children, one is almost ten and one is almost nine and the baby is three months. I have used the same family doctor with all of my kids and he was almost my doctor, I feel comfortable with his decision on when and what vaccines to give her and if I have questions we sit down and talk everything out! I think that is important to have a doctor that you can talk to and call when you need advice or have questions. I had a doctor also give me a disapproving look when I asked what I thought was an important question and I have never been back to that doctor since. If you don't have a good relationship with your doctor then who are you going to go to with your questions and feel good with the advice you receive.